Couples Counselling in
Victoria BC

Common goals

• Reduce escalations and rebuild safer communication
• Repair after betrayals, ruptures, or chronic disconnection
• Rebuild intimacy, friendship, and closeness
• Navigate parenting stress, life transitions, or blended-family dynamics
• Create clearer agreements around conflict, boundaries, and needs

How sessions work

I combine EFT (which helps us understand the emotions and attachment needs underneath conflict) with Gottman tools (practical skills, repair attempts, and rituals of connection). My job is to slow the cycle, keep things regulated, and help you both stay engaged.

Session lengths: 60-minute sessions can work well for ongoing support; 90-minute sessions give more time to settle, go deeper, and practice new skills in-session.

FAQs

• Will you take sides?
  No. I don't do “who's right.” I focus on the relationship and the cycle you're both getting pulled into. I will be clear and direct when something is harmful, and I'll help you understand what's underneath it.
• Do we get homework?
  Often, yes. It shouldn't feel like a second job; it's meant to help you build new patterns where it matters: at home.
• Can we meet online?
  Yes. Online can work very well for couples, especially when we have a clear plan for turn-taking, pauses, and regulation.
• Is Gottman the same as EFT?
  They're different, and they complement each other beautifully. EFT helps us understand the emotional/attachment needs under the conflict. Gottman adds structure and skills (repairs, communication tools, and relationship “habits” that support closeness). We'll use what fits you.